Our money agreement
Between (sending) and (receiving). Written on .
What I cover
Name the bills or needs, not “help”. Rent. The phone. Groceries. Medicine. Say which ones, and whether the money goes to you or straight to the biller.
How much, each month
One number. Write it in words too, the way a check does, so there is nothing to argue about later.
What day it arrives
Pick the day the money leaves my account. If that lands before your rent is due, say so here and we move it.
The cap
The most that can go out in any one month, including anything extra. When a one-off ask would go over it, the answer is already written: not this month.
Until when
An end date, or the thing that has to happen first (a job, a move, a benefit coming through). We sit down again two weeks before it and decide what comes next. Nothing just continues.
One-off asks
How you ask, how long I take to answer, and who else sees it. Writing this down is what keeps “not this time” from turning into a fight.
Who can see this page
My partner, your partner, a sibling. Say who. Money that others can see stays calmer than money that runs on text messages.